This is my sentence of the day.
Just read an article sharing on WeChat (a Chinese social app on mobile) saying the alterations of the new marriage law in China is diminishing woman’s rights to claim property on a divorce.
I have two opinions on this:
One, it is just a stupid idea trying to buy a house in China with the circumstances of you are just buying a 70 years usage of the house instead of permanent purchase. And along with the housing problem for couples, man has to provide a house for woman was in the history and now still vital for marriages in Chinese society. This leads to a long-been-a-problem of relationships between mother-in-law and wife becoming more fierce in modern Chinese society as woman becoming more powerful. Mother-in-law and the wife fighting over the son/husband is getting worse because woman in nowadays have their own opinion and less willing to give in on decision making processes.
Also, the conditions of getting married are now still very material based, that I am not saying it is not correct, but the concept of forming families is no longer ‘having a house to live happily ever after’, but it is ‘no house no marrying and therefore no negotiations on getting married despite two people love each other’.
Secondly, all the inflating comments on the latest amended Marriage Law in China is built upon the logic of two people will definitely get divorced.
I mean, if you are thinking about things when you might get divorced before you get married, why the hell on earth you would ever consider getting married with this person in the first place?
It’s like doing a business now, ‘okay, I can invest this much, and calculate the profit, and then if the business doesn’t go well I can sell out and see how much I can keep.’
Oh, maybe I have a third point, is that there are people around the world tried to use marriage to make money, therefore it is not surprise that the amendment of Marriage Law in China make it like a pre-marriage agreement to protect whoever’s interest in a marriage. For one thing, if any woman is getting annoyed by this law amendment in China, maybe you should never think about relying on man in the first place, and it is again now proved that modern woman need to be independent. For another, if man get annoyed which are not very likely to happen, that means your would-be-wife/wife have stronger capability than you which you should watch out as well, because from what I see, Chinese society remains male dominated in nowadays.
Then come to the end, I feel like I am talking like a feminist, but I hope I am not, is that regardless the law or the environment, I feel sick about the current attitude of people towards marriage. Marriage is NOT a trade! And the media in China shouldn’t put more spark on the dry grass of Chinese marriages, this action on social media where a lot of single young people are watching will cause panic on getting married in China. The effect of this would be the drop of number of youngsters forming families, or delay, and less likely to reproduce. (un-married families won’t become a trend in China, not for a while) By then, who will be the one supporting the youngsters now? The government? You must be kidding me.
As for the information flow in media in China affecting audience perceptions, I might need another blog to discuss it. However, my point would be, audiences have the right to know, have the right to judge. For this piece of information I get from the media today, I’d say regulations are like a joke, it’s not funny when you keep telling the pun again and again.